Growing up, I read everything I could get my hands on, discovering Zig Ziglar, Caroline Myss, and Napoleon Hill along the way. Their works kindled in me a lifelong passion for all things growth and development. I loved serving others and was always ready to help a friend work through challenges. I just knew that a positive mindset and enough determination could improve almost any situation.
Money was tight in our home and a university education wasn't in the budget, so I took the community college route, working during the day and going to school at night with plans to transfer to a 4-year university later. Then life happened and I had to put my dream of finishing college on hold.
Along the way, I got married, had two amazing kids, and landed a job at a Silicon Valley software company, where I was told a 4-year degree was a requirement for the next promotion. My employer offered to pay for my education and while balancing work and family, I finally got my bachelor's degree in Business Management.
As my career took off and I spent more time at the office, my home life suffered. I thought I could fix everything if I just worked harder, made more money, and bought enough stuff to make life comfortable.In a last-ditch attempt to save our marriage, I left the world of high tech and life on the road. My husband and I opened a business close to home to have more time together. By this point, the marriage was beyond fixing and everything fell apart before we could even finish construction on the business. It was the start of a long, painful divorce fueled by years of pent up frustration. After wasting thousands of dollars and countless hours on the fight, the judge finally had enough of us and put an end to the craziness when he ordered us to sell everything - including our house and business. By the time it was over, I felt drained, lost, and without a plan for the future. I started on a journey of bad decisions followed by some (really) bad times.
After the divorce I got my broker's license and went to work in real estate - two months later, the market crashed and my income dried up. Feeling weak, scared, and in need of rescue, I rushed into the arms of a charming con artist who talked me out of more than $40,000 before I caught on to his game. With no income, zero self-esteem, and having lost almost all of my savings, I was living on the edge with two young kids in tow.
Every time something went wrong, I would say "It can't get worse than this."
It got worse: I remember the evening my kids and I stood in the driveway, holding hands, as we watched the repo man take our car away. A few weeks later, we were evicted from our rental and as a grown-ass 36-year-old woman, I had to face facts: I had to move back in with my parents. Living back at home can be tough in the best circumstances: Add anxiety, depression, and defeat to the mix, and things became unbearable. The constant tension reached a breaking point and I had to get out before it all blew up.The most humbling experience of my life was phoning my ex-husband, begging to let the kids and I live in his spare bedroom until I could find my footing. In such a short time, I lost everything. I knew I had to get it together for my kids. It was time to dig out of the hole I had gotten into, but it wouldn't happen overnight.
I spent a way too much time - years - just getting by. I was playing small, hanging out in low paying jobs, crazy drama-filled workplaces, and dealing with a verbally abusive boss who happened to be a walking sexual harassment suit. I didn't think about leaving. The toxic situation I found myself in fed my broken self-esteem and allowed me wallow in self-pity - I could play the blame game and no one expected too much from me. Hell, I didn't expect much from me. I didn't have to get out of my comfort zone. I found myself in the safe/not safe space of an indifferent life. I had just about talked myself into believing this was as good as it was ever going to get.I went with a friend to an open house for a master’s program at JFK University in the Bay Area. As soon as the talk was over, I knew in my heart that I found my mission - the Universe had sent a sign to get off my ass - to stop existing and start living. Before I could talk myself out of it, I was back in college and the next four years were spent working during the day and going to school at night.
The master's program changed my life. I found my voice and rediscovered my long-dormant passion for serving others. The more I engaged with my professors and community, the more I forgot to feel sorry for myself. I immersed myself in coaching, human potential, and wellness studies. I put myself out there and took risks. I began coaching friends and co-workers and launched a successful consulting business.
After graduating with my master's degree, my old dysfunctional job wasn't working for me any more. I left it behind once and for all and went to work as a trainer for a popular skincare brand. I loved training, development, and teaching in front of big groups. I thrived at work and soon became a Regional Manager, leading a team of sales reps and educators responsible for millions of dollars a year in sales. Along the way, I received recognition and awards and was totally blown away the year I was given the Team Player leadership award at our annual sales meeting - An honor based on an almost-unanimous vote from the entire U.S. sales and education team.
I rode the momentum and moved to one of the world’s top consumer health companies, as head of US education, training, and development for their customers and sales teams.
My experience coaching, educating, and training individuals and teams to be high performers in both my own businesses and for some of the world’s top companies informed my approach for helping others discover their purpose and potential.
My own story of losing everything and making the long climb back taught me there’s never a good time to give up on your dreams. I have intimate knowledge of the factors that keep us stuck and how the making the right changes and finding the right tribe can be life-changing.
Life is a flow of limitless possibility when you let go of limiting beliefs. You can get more of what you want out of life. I can't promise the journey will be easy, but I know it will be worth it.